Coaches: Focus on What Went RIGHT!

Focus on What Went RIGHT instead of What Went WRONG!

NAYS.org has a great article on focusing on the positive:

Focus on What Went RIGHT instead of What Went WRONG!

Dr. Sheriece Sadberry, sports psychologist: “Instead of focusing on what went wrong during the game, parents should focus on all the things their young athlete did right and things that they can improve on.”

We agree! Ainslee Lamb, a contributing coach for HOW TO COACH GIRLS talks about asking the team what went right.

To invest in girls, get them into sports

To invest in girls, get them into sports

The Vancouver Sun has an article that spoke to us:

Ravi Kahlon: To invest in girls, get them into sports

To invest in girls, get them into sports

Image: GERRY KAHRMANN / PNG

“Research shows that although boys and girls have the same innate physical abilities and start out equally active, girls’ athletic skills start falling behind after the age of seven. This gap only increases with age.

Only eight percent of girls are getting enough physical activity, compared to 14 percent of boys.

If girls haven’t participated in sports by the time they are 10 years old, there is only a 10-per-cent chance they will do so later in life. Moreover, by the time girls turn 13, they start dropping out of sports and other regular physical activities at twice the rate of boys.

Besides building strength and endurance, physical activity improves thinking and learning, emotional regulation and self-control, stress management, self-esteem, self-worth, resilience, and the ability to cope with anxiety and depression. Kids who engage in regular physical activity are more socially connected, successful, and less likely to use drugs than their inactive peers.

Girls who don’t participate in regular sports activities don’t get these benefits — which can limit their ability to reach their full potential.

Lessons learned on the sports field — such as teamwork, goal-setting, time management — transfer well to the boardroom and other career pursuits. Women who stay involved in sports often thrive in all aspects of life.

The challenge is encouraging more girls to get involved in sports when they are young and stay active — particularly during the critical teen years.”

 

Ravi Kahlon, a two-time Olympian in field hockey, and was elected Delta North MLA in 2017. He is parliamentary secretary for sport and multiculturalism.

 

How to Coach Girls is available through Amazon, Barnes & Nobles, and Audrey Press.

If anyone wishes to buy books for their town team or club team, Audrey Press offers volume discounts.

Review by Carolyn Wilhelm:

Whether you are a parent or teacher coach, this book would be a welcome addition to your library as it has a wealth of information, wisdom, and experience that will enhance any coaching experience. If you wish someone could sit down with you and share what really works, doesn’t work, and why in coaching girls, read this book for such advice. The authors state that 70% of all kids quit organized sports by the age of 13, with girls quitting at six times the rate of boys? This is certainly true in my experience. Team sports help children develop friendships, learn cooperation skills, have increased fitness, and understand expectations. It is wonderful when coaches offer their time to help students develop in these ways.

Chapters include such topics as keeping it fun, promoting a growth mindset, and developing good people (not just good players). The focus is on the overall development of the person (girl) and not only athletic skill level. There are solutions to specific issues such as when coaching your own daughter and handling a losing streak. Body image is another important topic covered. There are specific “code of conduct” lists for players and parents. Having parents sign a contract is a proactive method of preventing specific issues that could arise. This book has it all!

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We’re in Soccer Girl Problems: GIRLS, CONFIDENCE AND GIVING FEEDBACK

Soccer Girls Problems and How To Coach Girls

Thanks for hosting us Soccer Girl Problems!

GIRLS, CONFIDENCE AND GIVING FEEDBACK

Is it surprising that girls and women regularly underestimate their abilities and intelligence? It’s the opposite for boys and men who often overestimate theirs.

Katelyn Cooper, a doctoral candidate at Arizona State University, and her team asked 250 undergraduate biology students about their intelligence as compared to their peers.

“I would ask students about how their classes were going and I noticed a trend,” Cooper said. “Over and over again, women would tell me that they were afraid that other students thought that they were ‘stupid.’ I never heard this from the men in those same biology classes, so I wanted to study it.”

She found that men are 3.2 times more likely than women to believe they are smarter. On average, a man has a 61% chance of believing he is smarter than his colleagues, while a woman has only a 33% chance.

This confidence disparity by gender is not just true for biology students. Girls (and women) also underestimate their abilities across the board from academics to the workplace to sports. And, also notable, is that boys (and men) are the complete opposite, often believing that they are better than they actually are.

Read the rest here.

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When Girls Keep Quitting a Team

Thank you for your tweets Jared Fritz! His daughter’s high school coach’s coaching style resulted in losing 10 teammates. He tweeted to us:

From my daughter “I feel that the coaches do not really care about making people feel wanted” As a dad, how do I encourage her to still play?

We wondered if the coach was overwhelmed? Perhaps the coach needed an assistant coach or a parent team manager? Also, we wondered if his daughter had friends on the team and that would motivate her to stay on the team.

Has friends on the team. Coach has an assistant. Likely needs help with relating and motivating to HS Girls. Has been explained his philosophy chasing kids away. Mine another in a long line

Unfortunately, the coach simply seems to have a philosophy of weeding out players. We responded that if the coach seems the attrition as an issue and is concerned, then our book might help. If not, our advice would be to go above to his boss to point out the problem.

His most recent tweet makes us so happy!

 

Women in Sports Today: Female Coaches Are The Final Frontier

The turning point for women in sports was Title IX, a federal civil rights law in the U.S., passed as part of the Education Amendments of 1972. Before Title IX, one in 27 girls played sports. Today that number is two in five.*

Similarly, there were almost no college athletic scholarships for women 40 years ago. Now, almost 200,000 women play college sports, and many of those athletes get scholarships. But there is still significant work to be done. The playing field is still not equal despite Title IX.

Representative Patsy Mink of Hawaii, Title IX co-author, for whom the law was renamed in 2002.

Girls (and boys) of color still lack access sports.** This is an issue of poverty that also affects children who are not of color. The rise of club sports monetizes youth development in sports, shutting out those who can’t pay to play. And, the path to playing sports in college is often determined by the ability of parents to pay for development. Continue reading “Women in Sports Today: Female Coaches Are The Final Frontier”

We are in Soccer America!

Soccer America: Coaching Girls: How to deliver feedback effectively

COMMENTARY

Coaching Girls: How to deliver feedback effectively

by  ,  ,Feb 28, 2018

Mia: My daughter’s club volleyball coach is amazing; he thanks players for running for an out of bounds ball that they have no hope of getting. They would walk through fire for him. I asked him when we headed over to the team dinner one night if he had always coached this way. He told me that he used to be the kind of coach who was the hardest on the most promising player, but he learned that you can’t coach girls in that way.

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We’re in SOCCER AMERICA!

Soccer American Today

We are thrilled to have a chapter of HOW TO COACH GIRLS featured in Soccer America!

Soccer American Today

COMMENTARY

The clique factor — how coaches can mix it up to make a stronger team

Mia: An issue for my middle daughter when she played club soccer was carpools. The problem was that she was the only person on her team from her town. There were three other carpools based on location and then a few girls who were also the only ones from their town. It wasn’t that the girls from town carpools were inherently mean or exclusive or catty … but they came into practice as group who carpooled together, and most had played together for years on town teams together. They talked about people who went to their school who no one else knew. And, on the field, one group had a — most likely unconscious — tendency to pass to each other.

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How to keep girls in the game after puberty

From CNN:

How to keep girls in the game after puberty

“Seven out of the 10 girls who quit sports during puberty said they didn’t feel like they belonged in sports, according to the survey of more than 1,000 girls ages 16 to 24. Nearly the same number (67%) said they felt that society doesn’t encourage girls to play sports.

Hoping to change those numbers and keep more girls in the game, Always has come out with the latest installment in its viral #LikeAGirl campaign:

Nearly seven out of 10 girls in the Always survey said there are not enough female role models in sports today. Continue reading “How to keep girls in the game after puberty”

How Lack of Female Coaches Affects Kids

From The Atlantic:

The Field Where Men Still Call the ShotsThe Field Where Men Still Call the Shots

The lack of female coaches in youth sports can make lasting impressions on boys and girls.

“When you only see men in positions of power, you conclude ‘sports are not for me.’”

“Much attention and worry has been devoted to the decline of female coaches at the collegiate level since Title IX was passed in 1972. This landmark legislation prohibited discrimination on the basis of sex in all educational programs that receive federal funds, and its passage compelled colleges to ramp up the number of athletic teams for girls to stay on par with what they offered boys.

While nudging a record number of girls into athletics, Title IX also contributed to an unexpected and steady drop in the number of female collegiate coaches of women’s teams, from 90 percent in 1972 to 43 percent in 2014. In response to Title IX, many colleges combined male and female athletic departments, which in turn often meant that men now oversaw women’s teams; the law also meant pay parity for women’s-team coaches, the now-lucrative salaries attracting male coaches to female sports. These phenomena, among others, pushed women out of college coaching.”

More generally, girls who see just males in charge of teams may develop the distorted belief that leadership roles are reserved for men—and that aspiring to lead means adopting a masculine style of governance.

Read entire article here.

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AYSO Adopts Silent Saturday Policy

AYSO Adopts Silent Saturday Policy

From AYSO58:

AYSO Adopts Silent Saturday Policy

What is Silent Saturday?

“Silent Saturday” has been instituted in AYSO Regions throughout the country finding a great deal of success. Its main purpose is to just let the kids play and have fun without having to worry about how their performance is affecting the adults on the sidelines. “Silent Saturday” is a throwback to the old schoolyard days when kids would get together after school and on weekends just to play the sport all day without regard to who was winning and repercussions for poor play and decision-making.

The objectives of holding a “Silent Saturday” are:

• To reemphasize that the game is about letting the kids play and have fun.

• To give the players a chance to play totally on their own.

• To eliminate the verbal questioning of the referees’ decisions.

• To help the few parents and coaches who feel they must provide constant direction to understand that the kids can play very well on their own with limited instruction.

While the vast majority of adult verbal participation is intended to be positive and constructive, the fact of the matter is that games can (and have in the past) become so loud that the players often have difficulty hearing each other on the field. Taking one week off from any verbal interference may help adults’ gain perspective on just how loud they’ve been in the past. Continue reading “AYSO Adopts Silent Saturday Policy”